Mr. Looks vs Real man

Looks are said to be deceptive as this is something that will change with time. Not every good-looking person is a ‘Nice person’.

I am surprised as many people fall for looks and seeing outer personality rather than honesty, overall personality, and character of a person.

It may sound like a fantasy when a girl wants a tall handsome good looking guy and the time when it comes to commitment or being responsible, he shows him back instead of giving an assurance- “You have my back”.

“I don’t care if you are educated or not, still you can know what the actual truth is.”

If you are patient enough to understand someone and you will find a person who can walk miles with you.

At times, the guy might say so many things to a girl which sound like a dreamland for her and she falls in love with the guy and when the eyes are opened, she finds nothing but a dark room where no one can hear her voice

Why am I laying stress on this …why????

The reason is suicides, death, murders that take place so often in the name of love.

Suicidal Cases: —

In today’s digital world, it is quite easy to find a small kid with a phone and linked to social media apps and with the help of those apps, guys pick up the girls and after using them, leave them on no man’s land.

Or

A girl has an obsession with marrying or being with a guy when she falls in love with him and when she can’t marry him, she takes an immature decision to suicide.

In both cases, suicides are done and are closely related to the subject of Psychology

Death Cases:

Youth is affected by the digital world and it is found that they learn a lot from the media. So, Heartbreak and drinking have become a trend in youth where it has no relation and the solution intake has no solution at the end. These guys/girls drinking a lot and leading to kidney or heart failure can go into depression and the same happens to the girl. These death cases have been increased due to drink and drive(after coming from nightclubs/bars/pubs), kidney or heart failure, and can also result in a psychological disorder.

Murder cases:

In two cases, Murders are quite common. When a guy is obsessed with marrying a girl and the result is not positive, they might kill them. The same result is seen in a girl case, but the ratio of killing the opposite person when found with someone else is more in Males.

“Obsession is a problem/ keeping or wanting control in someone else’s life is a physiological problem when he/she is not related to that person.”

Psychology as a subject should be introduced in schools which can help an individual to understand the psychology of another person and can help in increasing the reasoning capability of a person.

Now those who are already matured but still are facing problems in finding true love or facing a problem to find the right guy, here is the solution:

DON’T BE IN A RUSH — Have patience!

If you are attracted to someone and want to break the bed with different handsome guys every winter — That’s your life and I won’t be judging you.

But,

If you are looking to find the correct person, then the most important thing in this Universe you need is patience. Patience is not testing someone for days or waiting for a few months and then bang-bang!

What is this patience then?

You need to talk to him, know him, know his likings, see how genuine he is by asking questions and if he is reliable, the only way is to find it by knowing for a while and seeing the trend of his commitments. A person can fake for a while to attract someone but with time you can see his real face.

Till the time you don’t see his real face, don’t go into any kind of relationship even if a person comes with a helicopter to pick you up for dinner.

If he can come for you, definitely he has many other options too. Don’t be insecure and think that if a millionaire is approaching you, you shouldn’t let go of this opportunity.

Don’t be a girl who thinks a rich, wealthy guy can keep you happy — — -This indicates that you need a secure life which you yourself cannot earn. Find a guy who can help you, who can be with you in good and bad. Who can cry and dance in the rain with you, I guess.

Now you might be thinking, where are those guys..??
Girls, you never open your eyes, we are standing to get a response from you, waiting for your one glance, we are simple and just want to know you more.

“So please don’t go by looks……

You have to find us as we might not be that interactive, we might be introverts, or might be shy speaking with you. We might not be wealthy but want to spend every penny on you and want to keep you safe in rain or from any storm. We might have big muscles or no muscles but we have the strength to keep you happy and safe till our last breath.

So, please don’t go by looks like it’s hard to give the same shoulder to someone whom we love because you friend-zoned us. Seeing you in pain makes us feel unhappy. We remained quiet as you’re recovering yourself from heartbreak.

We have a million things to say but you left us speechless because our small hints of love for you were ignored and you spent your time with Mr. Perfect, taking perfect selfies who soon left you with nothing but tears and pain.

We are close, we might know you or even if you are adding a new person to your life, don’t be in a rush.”

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND PREPARE YOUR MIND ACCORDINGLY:

“Love comes unexpectedly.”

If you want a handsome guy to be with so that you can have perfect selfies and make your friend jealous( living in a fake world) and if he leaves you, doesn’t care at all. Then you can play the game

But eventually, be prepared for heartbreak because we guys know if someone is attracted to us or likes us. The ball is in our court and with time you might get addicted to his presence or his affection. At times, you may not get out of the game mentally, so be prepared in this game of fake love.”

UNDERSTAND THE PATTERN:

“Some guys act like a nice person, greet a girl every day, have small conversations, want to be a mystery in their life — — — — — Men are using this method to capture a girl’s mind( that’s what a player does).

Understand if we talk less, have a little conversation, you would like to know us more — -It will create interest and you will always be interested in having a little conversation. And after some time, will throw our ‘Net’ and chances are you will fall in love.

Listen to this — — — If a person is loyal, he will not create a mystery. He will express himself, he wants you to know him. The mystery is created when a person is hiding something from you. Slowly want to capture your mind without exposing his complete identity. Most of the time a girl is honest in expressing herself and would like to know someone. The truth is a person who is hiding will try to talk less in front of you, try to capture your mind by seeing you and being around you but will not share everything so honestly or will not give you ample amount of time to know exactly who he is.

Till the time, you don’t know exactly who he is, his thoughts, his family, his good things, his bad things, don’t fall for anyone. If he is honest, he will come and share everything with you.

Trust me — — -one day when these players start losing their game when a girl doesn’t take much interest in their mystery game. They will come up with their real face and always try to give time to someone who is trying to share everything with you. Then, it will be easy for you to make your decision and if you want to be with someone or not. You will have a clear picture, so understand the pattern.”

One last thing I want to say, you came into this world, you can survive on your own. Don’t be dependent on someone else. Don’t think a rich guy can keep you happy, he should be sensible of course. Don’t fall for someone who doesn’t respect you. Don’t fall for these fake players.

Try to find someone by his character, his thoughts, his attitude, his respect for you, and his commitments — — there will be one who will have your back and you can trust and fall. He will always be there for you. Don’t go by the looks…find a real man.